5 easy sex poses for newbies

We explain the 5 sex positions that those new to sex can try.

Sex is a daunting prospect for those who are new at it. But your inexperience also adds a fun element – everything you experience feels exciting and sensual. You and your partner can find your common rhythm and favourite pose as you go along in your sexual relationship. For starters, you can check out these 5 sex positions:

1 The missionary. This is often the first pose that most couples start their sex lives with. Over time, you will graduate to other poses, but when you’re new to sex, the missionary works just fine. The man can rest on the woman while he enters her and thrusts, and she only has to lie back and enjoy it. It’s called a ‘boring’ pose by many couples, but it’s great to begin with.

2 The relaxed doggy pose. You might have heard of the popular doggy pose, but there’s one thing to be said about it – it makes for rough sex. Besides, the woman has no control over the depth of penetration and she cannot touch and caress the man at all. If you want a friendlier variation of this pose, try the relaxed or modified doggy, in which the man enters the woman from behind but also lies down on her. This gives more skin on skin contact.

3 The butterfly. This is a good sex position for men who are new to sexual intercourse and are still finding their way about the female body. In this pose, the woman lies down on her back, legs resting against the man’s body. The man stands up in front of her, facing her so that his penis can enter the woman easily. It helps if the woman is flexible and able to hold the pose for long. You can get a better angle of penetration by placing a pillow under the woman’s hips.

4 The reclining woman on top. In this sex position, the woman does not sit bolt upright on the man’s body while she straddles him. Instead, she allows the penis to enter her and then gradually lies down on him, breasts touching his torso or chest. This pose allows the man to play with the woman’s shoulders and breasts, and the thrusting can be sweet and gentle.

5 The seated chair. This is an easy sex position that offers both partners the chance to look deeply into each other’s eyes as they join together, seated facing each other in the same chair. The woman sits on the man’s lap, and this pose allows the couple to lock eyes or hold each other while having sex. 

Are you wearing your condom properly?

An incorrectly worn condom can tear or burst during sex, causing many problems later on. We compile an easy guide on wearing the condom correctly.

Sometimes, all you want to do is grab your partner and get on with it right there on the kitchen table. Or you wake up completely aroused in the middle of the night, wanting to have sex. While it’s great to be spontaneous, it does not do to forget one basic factor in lovemaking: wearing a condom.

You might even have a condom handy, but you’re not sure if you’re wearing it right. An ill-fitting condom will always feel either too tight or too loose, so stop right there if the condom doesn’t fit, because it will most certainly cause problems during sex. Then you’re wondering if the condom is torn or not. Basically, you’re not sure if your condom wearing technique is right.

Take a look at these steps outlining how to use a condom:

Handle with care. You might be in a hurry to open the condom packet and get it on, but this haste can result in tearing of the condom. By now, you’ve heard umpteen stories of what happens when you have sex with a torn condom, so be careful. Hold the packet with two fingers and open it gently with the other hand. Don’t pull the condom roughly, or you will tear it.

Unroll it a little, right side up. Hold the condom by the base – this is where the plastic ring is. Now unroll the condom slightly, with gentle fingers. Don’t open it all the way, or you won’t be able to put it on properly.

Get the air out. Now that your penis is erect, place the condom on it. Hold the ring with one hand, and squeeze the tip of the condom with the other. This gets the excess air out of the condom, or the condom will burst during use. That’s painful and counterproductive.

Roll, use. Roll the condom over your erect penis gently, till it unrolls all the way. If the condom is the right size, it will fit snugly like a glove, instead of being too tight or sliding around on your penis. Once the condom is securely in place, you can get on with sex.

Throw away carefully. After use, hold the base of the condom and gently disengage your penis from it. Hold the condom upright and knot it carefully with the other hand, so that you don’t spill its contents everywhere. Dispose of safely in the trash. Do not keep the same condom on if you want to have sex again in the same session. Condoms are designed for just a single use, so throw away the first one and reach for a fresh one the second time around.