3 best oral sex positions for her

Did you think there was only one way to give her oral? Incorporate oral into other sex positions to drive her wild.

Women respond differently to sex than men do. They cannot be aroused as quickly as men, and even after arousal, they may not be fully prepared for penetration. It takes a fair bit of foreplay to get a woman in the mood for sex. A great foreplay technique is oral sex.

Most men give woman oral sex while the woman lies down on her back and the man goes down on top of her. There are other ways to give her oral sex, and they increase her pleasure enough to make her orgasm explosively. We list 3 best oral sex positions for your woman:

1 Doggy adds a twist. As a man, you enjoy the doggy style sex position. It gives you greater penetration and a superb view of your woman’s body. But have you considered giving her a fun surprise before you get down to it? As she takes position on her hands and knees, you do the same behind her. Now start pleasuring her with your lips and tongue, while using a hand to stimulate her clitoris. She will soon start moaning and trembling – slip your erect penis inside her and give her the works!

2 Sit on his face. We don’t mean that the woman sits on the man’s face. This sex position is great for women who are athletic and who can hold their weight without support. As the man lies flat on his back, the woman hovers her clitoris and vaginal region over his face. Now he starts licking and kissing her down there, while she moves back and forth or dips to supplement his efforts. The woman can hold on to the bedstead or place pillows under her knees to support her legs.

3 Give him a leg up. This is an exciting sex position for women who have some trouble getting aroused during foreplay. The woman sits on the edge of the bed while the man sits cross-legged on the floor. Now she props her knees on his shoulders, and lies back on her elbows. He puts his face between her legs and pleasures her – since her legs are more open, he gets more to work with. This position does not cramp his neck and he can go as slow or fast as he wants.

It is good to use flavoured lube before going down on her. Not only does lube make the experience more enjoyable for him, the woman can also feel new sensations with the lube. You can get warming, cooling and tingling lubes that drive her wild in bed. Lube also minimises chafing during penetrative sex, so that there is no pain or soreness afterward.

Which condom type are you?

There are condoms and there are condoms, but are you using the right one?

Sex is one of the most wonderful experiences that a person can share with their partner. It is pleasurable and it unites two souls during the act. Sex also improves physical and mental wellbeing, and helps a couple stay connected through life’s challenges.

But if you do it the same way, with the same moves and even wearing the same condom, sex can become really boring. You owe it to your relationship to increase the pleasure of it, to make it more enjoyable. A condom can help you in this respect.

How can a condom enhance sex?

Earlier, only the most basic condoms were available, which provided functionality without enhancement. You could just slip the sheath on to the penis and have sex. But today, there are different types of condoms, in different make and materials. Condoms today are created to not just provide protection, but also to make the experience really enjoyable.

If you or your partner (or both) feel that wearing a condom is unnecessary, think again. It protects against STIs and unwanted pregnancies. You might be sure that neither of you has any STIs, but it doesn’t hurt to be safe. Besides, you cannot be wondering if you are helping create a pregnancy instead of focussing on enjoying the sexual act!

Picking the right type of condom frees you from any worries about your sexual health. It also increases your pleasure in each other.

What’s on offer?

There are many types of condoms to choose from, based on the condom thickness, material and texture. Start by picking the right size. The condom must fit snugly, like a glove, on the erect penis. If it is too tight, it might tear during sex. If it is a size bigger, it will slip off.

Once you’ve got the right size, it is time to find the condom with the right sensation. This aspect is more important for your partner, so choose well. Look for condoms from Durex, which has a wide range of condoms such as:

Fetherlite: These are super slim condoms to give couples the feeling of skin-on-skin contact during sex. But despite their thinness, they are tough enough not to break or tear during sex.

Extra safe: These condoms are slightly thicker than others. They are great for couples who don’t know each other very well, and who would like increased protection against pregnancies or STIs/STDs. These condoms are layered with spermicide for added protection.

Real feel: Their texture is like skin, so you feel like you’re having sex without a condom.

Pleasuremax: Their ribbed and dotted texture enhance her pleasure.

Ribbed, dotted: These condoms have ribs on the surface, or raised dots, to increase her sensitivity during sex.

Warming: These condoms are coated with warming lube on the surface.

Flavoured: For better oral sex for both partners.

Delayed climax: These condoms delay orgasm so you can enjoy the act for longer.

Why do I need a condom?

A primer on a few facts to know about condom use and why a condom is essential during sex.

A condom protects you and your partner from unwanted pregnancies and the transmission of sexual infections and diseases. It acts like a barrier between the exchange of sexual fluids. Condoms like the Durex range are rigorously tested and re-tested to negate the possibility of condom tearing during sex.

Condoms are necessary for good sexual health, since they keep a clean partner safe from the STIs or STDs of an infected partner. It also gives people suffering from STIs and STDs the freedom to have sex without risking their partner’s health.

Condoms also enhance sexual pleasure. Some couples feel that the condom takes away the skin-on-skin feeling that they yearn for during sex. However, condoms from companies like Durex shatter this myth. Durex has a range of condoms that provide specific sensations during sex. They increase pleasure and closeness during sex – you will love to have protected sex when you try these condoms that offer tingling, ribbed and warming sensations, among others!

So, this is how to use a condom…

There is never a bad time to wear a condom, since it has benefits for your health and sexual life. Even if your partner is not fond of sex with condoms, gently insist on wearing one for both your sakes.

* Choose the right condom. This depends on your sensitivity to rubber or latex. Pick the condom that is most suited to your penis length and girth. A too tight or too loose condom can break or slip off during sex.

* Wear the condom correctly. Do not use your fingernails on it while wearing it, or it might tear. Roll it down on your erect penis gently till the base.

* Suspect a malfunction? Discard it. Do not wear a condom that you suspect is expired (if it’s been in your wallet too long, it’s no good) or torn. It will tear during sex and put you and your partner at risk. Start with a new condom within its expiry date.

* Even sex toys need condoms. It sounds strange, but if you use sex toys that involve insertion inside your or her body, then it needs a condom, too. Sex toys are coated with sexual fluids that can contain the virus causing several STIs and STDs. Wash the sex toys and disinfect them before use, and put a condom on them just to be sure.

* Lubricants can be used with condoms. Make sure to use a water-based lube during sex, so that the condom does not cause pain or chafing for her. Most condoms are lube-safe, but don’t use oil-based ones with latex condoms.

* Wearing two condoms is unnecessary. You cannot increase ‘security’ by wearing two condoms. In fact, both will slip or cause friction with each other, resulting in tearing. One condom worn correctly is enough.

Has sex become boring for you?

It’s time to bring the zing back into your bedroom activities – let’s start with a few basics.

It happens to many couples. After a few years have passed, they begin to experience a sense of ennui about their sex life. Some couples are so bored that they seek other sexual partners, or avoid having sex with each other altogether. This is an unhappy state of affairs, but it can be set right with a few changes.

Here’s how to have better sex and a more satisfying relationship:

1 Reconnect. Often, busy schedules and an emotional disconnect leads to distance and boredom. Over time, the frequency of sex tapers off! But don’t panic just yet – you just need to find the connection that first bound the two of you. Go the movies, take a class together, go hiking or just spend the day shopping and trying out new restaurants like you used to. When you reconnect and find that laughter and each other’s company puts you in a good mood, you are just a few steps away from regaining your sexual appetite for each other.

2 Make time to have sex. It can happen that you really wish to have sex but there is never enough time to do so. The two of you might have conflicting schedules, and you end up seeing each other only on the weekends. Or you may be too tired to do anything in bed except curl up and go to sleep. The thing about sex is, if you don’t have it often enough you might not miss it much, and that spells the end of your sexual relationship. So make time at least once a week – maybe early in the morning, or having a shower together before work – to have sex.

3 Explore each other more. Doing the same things in bed over and over again can kill your excitement. The same position, the same sequence of events, the inevitable climax after much thrusting…it can become completely robotic and unsexy. In fact, sex doesn’t have to be about penetration and orgasms at all. Increase your foreplay, or just lie in bed exploring each other’s bodies and talking. Or put on some music and dance in your living room, or walk around the house naked as if it’s the most normal thing in the world. Looking at each other’s naked bodies is as sensual as touching each other.

4 Be more daring – it’s worth it. If you’re bored with your sex life, it means that you’ve been with your partner for a while. And this means that you both are now secure enough about the relationship to try new things. Most couples fall into a routine of passivity: she lies down on her back, he lies down on top of her, thrust-thrust, done. Unshackle your sex life from the dreaded ‘same old same old’ curse. You could try a new position to spice things up. Or assume fictional identities and have sex with each other as if you are two strangers having sex after a first date. And do introduce lubes and vibrators in the mix. 

5 easy sex poses for newbies

We explain the 5 sex positions that those new to sex can try.

Sex is a daunting prospect for those who are new at it. But your inexperience also adds a fun element – everything you experience feels exciting and sensual. You and your partner can find your common rhythm and favourite pose as you go along in your sexual relationship. For starters, you can check out these 5 sex positions:

1 The missionary. This is often the first pose that most couples start their sex lives with. Over time, you will graduate to other poses, but when you’re new to sex, the missionary works just fine. The man can rest on the woman while he enters her and thrusts, and she only has to lie back and enjoy it. It’s called a ‘boring’ pose by many couples, but it’s great to begin with.

2 The relaxed doggy pose. You might have heard of the popular doggy pose, but there’s one thing to be said about it – it makes for rough sex. Besides, the woman has no control over the depth of penetration and she cannot touch and caress the man at all. If you want a friendlier variation of this pose, try the relaxed or modified doggy, in which the man enters the woman from behind but also lies down on her. This gives more skin on skin contact.

3 The butterfly. This is a good sex position for men who are new to sexual intercourse and are still finding their way about the female body. In this pose, the woman lies down on her back, legs resting against the man’s body. The man stands up in front of her, facing her so that his penis can enter the woman easily. It helps if the woman is flexible and able to hold the pose for long. You can get a better angle of penetration by placing a pillow under the woman’s hips.

4 The reclining woman on top. In this sex position, the woman does not sit bolt upright on the man’s body while she straddles him. Instead, she allows the penis to enter her and then gradually lies down on him, breasts touching his torso or chest. This pose allows the man to play with the woman’s shoulders and breasts, and the thrusting can be sweet and gentle.

5 The seated chair. This is an easy sex position that offers both partners the chance to look deeply into each other’s eyes as they join together, seated facing each other in the same chair. The woman sits on the man’s lap, and this pose allows the couple to lock eyes or hold each other while having sex. 

Are you wearing your condom properly?

An incorrectly worn condom can tear or burst during sex, causing many problems later on. We compile an easy guide on wearing the condom correctly.

Sometimes, all you want to do is grab your partner and get on with it right there on the kitchen table. Or you wake up completely aroused in the middle of the night, wanting to have sex. While it’s great to be spontaneous, it does not do to forget one basic factor in lovemaking: wearing a condom.

You might even have a condom handy, but you’re not sure if you’re wearing it right. An ill-fitting condom will always feel either too tight or too loose, so stop right there if the condom doesn’t fit, because it will most certainly cause problems during sex. Then you’re wondering if the condom is torn or not. Basically, you’re not sure if your condom wearing technique is right.

Take a look at these steps outlining how to use a condom:

Handle with care. You might be in a hurry to open the condom packet and get it on, but this haste can result in tearing of the condom. By now, you’ve heard umpteen stories of what happens when you have sex with a torn condom, so be careful. Hold the packet with two fingers and open it gently with the other hand. Don’t pull the condom roughly, or you will tear it.

Unroll it a little, right side up. Hold the condom by the base – this is where the plastic ring is. Now unroll the condom slightly, with gentle fingers. Don’t open it all the way, or you won’t be able to put it on properly.

Get the air out. Now that your penis is erect, place the condom on it. Hold the ring with one hand, and squeeze the tip of the condom with the other. This gets the excess air out of the condom, or the condom will burst during use. That’s painful and counterproductive.

Roll, use. Roll the condom over your erect penis gently, till it unrolls all the way. If the condom is the right size, it will fit snugly like a glove, instead of being too tight or sliding around on your penis. Once the condom is securely in place, you can get on with sex.

Throw away carefully. After use, hold the base of the condom and gently disengage your penis from it. Hold the condom upright and knot it carefully with the other hand, so that you don’t spill its contents everywhere. Dispose of safely in the trash. Do not keep the same condom on if you want to have sex again in the same session. Condoms are designed for just a single use, so throw away the first one and reach for a fresh one the second time around.

An intimate massage – Helping her break free

Many women struggle with arousal or lubrication during sex. An intimate massage helps them break free of their inhibitions and enjoy great sex.

Sex is a joy for most people – we say most, because some people do not, or cannot, enjoy it all. For men, it may be about performance anxiety or an underlying medical issue such as prostate cancer or diabetes. For women, it might be about vaginal dryness despite arousal, and subsequent pain during intercourse.

While medication can help you overcome these problems, sometimes the solution is closer to home. Women who have a desire for sex but who are afraid of penetrative intercourse may benefit from a sensual massage. It helps them break free of their inhibitions and get into the mood. And if all else fails, they can get some lube on and get right down to it.

What is a sensual massage?

Also known as an intimate massage, it is a massage that awakens the body’s senses by touching and massaging the erogenous zones. Apart from this, it also seeks to relax the person completely by stroking and rubbing, so that one may be in the mood for rest and great sex. It is a great stress reliever that not only removes pain and tension from the body, while also preparing the body and mind for sex.

However, sensual massages are not aimed only at having sex at the end. It can also help women relax, have a better body image and even work out some past issues about sex that may hold them back from enjoying intercourse.

How can it help a woman?

First off, if the woman suffers from vaginal dryness despite lots of foreplay, she can benefit from her partner caressing her vaginal lips with lube till she starts quivering with pleasure. At this point, he can enter inside her and she can take advantage of the wetness down there to really enjoy the experience.

Second, some women have body image issues. They may feel that they are physically unattractive and that their partners may not like to see their naked bodies. In this case, the partner can reassure the woman by complimenting the feel of her skin, her curves and how exciting her bodies are, while giving her a sensual massage.

Third, it helps the woman trust a man much more. This is important for women who have had bad relationships in the past, or who harbour suspicions that men are only interested in women for sex. Both partners are naked during the sensual massage, and the giver is more invested in it than the receiver. Hence, the woman becomes more relaxed when she sees that her male partner is more interested in pleasuring her than himself.

4 Tips to Practice Safe Sex and Eliminate the Risk of STDs

According to a report by UNAIDS, the Joint United Nations Programme on HIV and AIDS, Saudi Arabia has been a “low-HIV prevalence” country, with only 1.5 newly detected cases per 10,000 being reported for 2013 among Saudi nationals and 1.2 for every 10,000 non-Saudis. A key reason for these low numbers, however, was the fact that social stigma has been preventing people from reporting HIV infections. However, the situation has now changed with the introduction of pre-marital HIV testing, although the real numbers might still not be known.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), there has been a dramatic rise in sexually transmitted diseases in the last 4-5 years, worldwide. Some key reasons behind this increase can be lack of sex education, ignorance, impaired judgement due to alcohol/drug abuse, lack of knowledge about condoms and other types of safe sex practices.

The only way to remain protected against HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases is to always practice safe sex.

4 Effective Tips for Safe Sex

1. Use a Condom

Apart from the fact that they are one of the most reliable ways to curb pregnancy, condoms also prevent the transmission of STDs, such as HIV/AIDS, genital herpes, syphilis, chlamydia, trichomoniasis, etc. Fortunately, with so much innovation taking place, you can buy different types of condoms and add spice to your sexual encounters. For instance, Durex Sensation is a product designed specifically to heighten pleasure through intense stimulation.

2. Avoid Having Sex when Drunk

According to the World Health Organization, alcohol is a major reason why so many STD cases are reported across the world. Alcohol impairs judgment and makes you indulge in high-risk sexual activities that majorly increase the risk of contracting STDs by nearly 37%!

3. Choose a Responsible Partner

Try choosing a partner who encourages you to practice safe sex. This would instill confidence in both of you, thereby reducing the chances of any infections or diseases.

4. Keep Reminding Yourself about the Importance of Safe Sex

We understand that sometimes sex can be spontaneous, or in the heat of the moment. But always remind yourself about the repercussions of indulging in unsafe sex. This way, both you and your partner can have a memorable experience without any hassles or tensions.

Sex is enjoyable, and a perfect method to eliminate stress, anxiety and insomnia. But if you follow the tips provided here, you can continue making it an enjoyable experience. 

4 Important Things Every Teenager Should Know

According to the UN Statistics Division, the teenage pregnancy rate for girls between the ages of 15 and 19 years in Saudi Arabia was 37.3 per 1000 between 1995 and 2000. The good news is that the figure has come down to 11.6 per 1000 girls between 2005 and 2010! While this is a positive sign, the figure can be brought down even further if there is sex education for teenagers, along with instructions on how to use a condom. This will also have a positive impact not only in terms of the spread of sexually transmitted diseases but on the mental preparedness of the individuals before they experiment.

Here are a few things every teenager with raging hormones should know.

Some Important Tips for Teenagers

1.      To Err is Human: Even the most mature people tend to make mistakes. Perfection is a word that is just a part of the dictionary. You can hone your talent over a period of time and give your best shot to make things happen. As a youngster, you are energetic and inquisitive. So, take full advantage of it rather than pondering over trivial issues that will just consume your time and energy unnecessarily.

2.      Education is Paramount: Life is a challenge. Life is a struggle. We can bet these words are often spoken by parents! Grown-ups have other things to worry about – like putting food on the table and paying bills. But the best part about adolescence is that the only thing you need to worry about is education. To ensure a stable and successful career ahead, focus on your studies and stay away from bad company!

3.      Hurry Spoils the Curry: This is that wonderful time when you start having crushes! Physical intimacy is necessary for two souls to come even closer. However, if you're not completely ready, do not force yourself to have sex or succumb to peer pressure. Before attempting anything physical, make sure you know how to use a condom. This is the only thing that can ensure maximum protection, in terms of pregnancy and diseases. There are various products, like Durex Performa, that can help you have a memorable experience and save you from any adverse consequences.

4.      Party Hard: All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy! What's life without some fun? Hang out with your buddies, go out for movies, attend music concerts, go out on a candlelight dinner with your love interest, and simply enjoy each moment of life. When you become an adult, you'll be reminiscing about these times with nostalgia!

Study hard, party harder, make mistakes (but not irreversible ones), and finally evolve into a mature human being. Such is the essence of life!

5 Simple Yet Powerful Ways to Spice up Things in Bed

A study by Blue Abaya suggests that nearly 63 percent of marriages in Saudi Arabia are not consummated due to performance anxiety. This anxiety causes turmoil in happily married lives.

On the other hand, after many years of marriage, sex can turn mundane and boring. The important thing is to keep the spark alive in your relationships and sex forms an important part of the whole equation.

Here are some simple ways in which to can rekindle the romance, add some much needed spice and give your relationship a new lease of life.

5 Ways to Add Spark to Your Sex Life

1.      Reconnect with Each Other: If things are not rosy in bed, chances are that the bond between the two of you also might have weakened with time. After all, it is a biological need! Start by having a fruitful conversation with your partner. You can talk about the things that excite you, like movies, music, cars, or even past sexual episodes.

2.      Dirty Talking: The power of communication should not be underestimated! Indulging in some steamy conversation can itself charge your sexual ions. Ask your partner if he/she is comfortable with pleasure toys, or different types of condoms such as dotted, flavoured or glow-in-the-dark ones. This can eventually be a great turn on for both of you!

3.      Don’t Rush into Bed: Patience is a virtue! If you’re too hasty to get the job done, you might miss out a whole new level of lovemaking! Before straight away jumping into intercourse, focus on some intense foreplay for at least 20 minutes. Exploring each other with passion can prove to be a complete game-changer.

4.       Make it Even More Exciting: To really spice things up a notch, order some items such as Durex Play Vibrations or Durex Play Discover.  They are incredibly powerful pleasure enhancing tools that can stimulate your whole sexual experience. If you are bored with the conventional types of condoms, you can go for some exciting ones such as dotted, flavoured, ultra-thin and more that can help stimulate both partners and add to the entire experience.

5.      Expand Your Horizons: Think beyond the bed! You can shift your sexual adventures to the couch, on the floor, or inside the car. This will keep the adrenaline levels pumping! Consider a weekend getaway for just the two of you, away from everyday responsibilities and worries.

Enjoy each and every moment spent together. This will strengthen your relationship even further, and the keep the magic alive!